Photograph by Emily Joyce, age 12
Healing Resources
General Book Sources
Baywood Publishing Company, Inc.
Scholarly and professional publications since 1964. Complete book and journal information - including all journal articles with abstracts and now all articles are available for electronic delivery. Find death and bereavement resources by keyword, author, article, title or issue.
http://baywood.com/
The Center for Loss and Life Transition Bookstore
The publications for mourners and bereavement caregivers are current, readable and compassionate. The Center offers books, brochures, videotapes, audiocassettes, aftercare packets and posters. Companion Press is the publishing division of the Center for Loss and is dedicated to the education and support of both the bereaved and bereavement caregivers. Many of these books were written by Dr. Alan Wolfelt, who is an internationally noted author, educator and grief counselor
http://www.centerforloss.com/bookstore.php
Compassion Books
"The resources we offer have been collected from hundreds of publishers (small and large). They have been carefully reviewed by knowledgeable professionals and others who have experienced similar losses."
http://www.compassionbooks.com
The Dougy Center maintains resources, all available for purchase throughout their site or by phone/mail. Resources include books and videos categorized by Child/Teen/Adult.
http://www.dougy.org
GriefNet
GriefNet maintains an Annotated Bibliography of resources. Each book has a review, and many can be found at the public library. If not, you can purchase them through their link to Amazon, which provides funding.
http://griefnet.org/library/biblio/index.html
RENEW Center for Personal Recovery
Offers comprehensive training publications for developing a school and district-wide crisis plan, training teams in crisis management, empowering building-level crisis teams to provide staff development for their colleagues, parents, and students to prevent, intervene, respond to crisis, as well as to support recovery by students and staff from grief and trauma. The Book Catalogue contains excellent self-help books, journals and tapes for parents, counselors, teachers, and children and youth on grief, trauma, suicide, murder, abuse, violence prevention, depression, divorce, self-esteem, drug abuse, and much more.
http://renew.net
Two other sources for death related stories, poetry and other forms of literature are:
D. J. Enright (Ed.), The Oxford Book of Death (1983) and
R. F. Weir (Ed.), Death in Literature (1980).
Children and Teens Facing Grief
Ages 3 to 5
Brown, Laurie & Marc (1996) When Dinosaurs Die. Boston: Little, Brown and Company
Brown, M. The Dead Bird. NY: Young Scotts Books
Buscaglia, Leo (1982). The Fall of Freddie the Leaf. NJ: Slack, Charles B.
Coutant, H. First Snow NY: Alfred Knopf
Dickerson, Julie (1995). Grandpa’s Berries. PA: Cherubic Press
Fox, Mern (1989). Wilfred Gordon McDonald Partridge. CA: Kane/Miller Book Publishers
Goldman, Linda (1998) Bart Speaks Out. CA: Manson Western
Goldstein, R. & J. (1982). Where’s Jess? NE: Centering Corporation
Gryte, Marilyn (1988). No New Baby. NE: Centering Corporation
Hanks, Bernice (1996). Green Mittens from Grandma. NE: Centering Corporation
Harris, A. (1965). Why Did He Die? MN: Lerner Publications.
Harris, Robert H. (2001). Goodbye, Mousie. NY: Simon & Schuster
Joslin, Mary & Little, Claire (1999). The Goodbye Boat. MI: William B. Eerdmans
Kohen, Cindy, Heiney, John & Gordon, Michael (1997).Daddy’s Promise. MI: Promise Pub
LeShan, Eda. Learning to Say Goodbye. NY: MacMillian
Madenski, Melissa (1991). Some of the Pieces. NY: Little Brown and Company
Mellonie, B & Ingpen, R. (1983). Lifetimes: A beautiful way to explain death. NY: Bantam
McLaughlin, Kristen (2000). The Memory Box. NE: Centering Corporation
Miles, Miska (1985). Annie and the Old One. NY: Little Brown and Company
Mills, Joyce C. (1993). Gentle Willow. NY: Magination Press
Morning, Barbara (1996). Grandfather’s Shirt. NE: Centering Corporation
Mundy, Michelene. Sad Isn’t Bad: A Good Grief Guidebook. Abbey Press
O’Toole, Donna R (1989). Aarvy Aardvark Finds Hope. NC: Compassion Books
Palmer, Pat (1994). I Wish I Could Hold Your Hand. CA: Impact Publishers
Scrivani, Mark (1996). I Heard Your Mommy/Daddy Died. NE: Centering Corporation
Silverman, Janice (1999). Help Me Say Goodbye. MN: Fairview Press
Sims, Alecia M. (1993). Am I Still A Sister? NM: Big A and Company
Stein, S. (1974). About Dying. NY: Walker and Company
Stickney, Doris (1997). Waterbugs and Dragonflies. PA: Pilgram Press
Varley, S. (1984). Badger’s Parting Gifts. NY: Wm. Morrow & Company
Voist, J. (1987). The Tenth Good Thing About Barney. NY: Atheneum
Warburg, S. Growing Time. NY: Houghton Mifflin Company
Wilhelm, Hans (1988). I’ll Always Love You. NY: Crown Publishers
Ages 6 to 12
Brown, Laurie & Marc (1996). When Dinosaurs Die. Boston: Little, Brown and Company
Buscaglia, Leo (1982). The Fall of Freddie the Leaf. NJ: Slack, Charles B.
Campbell, James (1992). Secret Places. NE: Centering Corporation
Clifton, Lucille (1988). Everett Andersons Goodbye. NY: Henry Holt
Coerr, E & Young, E. (1993). Sadako. NY: Putnam
Constans, Gabriel (1996). Just A Heartbeat Away. NE: Centering Corporation
Czech, Jan (2000). The Guardian Angel. NE: Centering Corporation
Dickerson, Julie (1995). Grandpa’s Berries. PA: Cherubic Press
DiPaolo, Tomie (2000). Nana Upstairs and Nana Downstairs. Australia: Penguin Putnam
Evarts, Michelle (1999). Butterfly Bush. NE: Centering Corporation
Goble, Paul (1993). Beyond the Ridge. NY: Aladdin
Goldman, Linda (1998). Bart Speaks Out. CA: Manson Western
Goldstein, R. & J. (1982). Where’s Jess? NE: Centering Corporation
Green-Alexander, Alesia (1999). Sunflowers and Rainbows for Tia. NE: Centering Corporation
Gryte, Marilyn (1988). No New Baby. NE: Centering Corporation
Hanks, Bernice (1996). Green Mittens from Grandma. NE: Centering Corporation
Harris, Robert H. (2001). Goodbye, Mousie. NY: Simon & Schuster
Hemery, Kathleen (1998). The Brightest Star. NE: Centering Corporation
Hipp, Earl (1995). Help for the Hard Times. Hazeldon Info & Ed Series
Hodge, John (1999). Finding Grandpa Everywhere. NE: Centering Corporation
Holmes, Margaret (1999). Molly’s Mom Died. NE: Centering Corporation
Kohen, Cindy, Heiney, John & Gordon, Michael (1997). Daddy’s Promise. MI: Promise Publications
Landolf, Helen (2000). Getting Used to Candy. NE: Centering Corporation
Liss Levinson, Nechama (1999). When A Grandparent Dies. VT: Jewish Lights Press
Lowden, Stephanie (1993). Emily’s Sadhappy Season. NE: Centering Corporation
Madenski, Melissa (1991). Some of the Pieces. NY: Little Brown and Company
Marshall, Bridgett (1997). Animal Crackers. NE: Centering Corporation
McLaughlin, Kristen (2000). The Memory Box. NE: Centering Corporation
Miles, Miska (1985). Annie and the Old One. NY: Little Brown and Company
Mills, Joyce C. (1993). Gentle Willow. NY: Magination Press
Morning, Barbara (1996). Grandfather’s Shirt. NE: Centering Corporation
Moser, Adolf (1995). Don’t Despair on Thursdays. KS: Landmark Editions
Oliver, Sam (2005). A Fish Named Ed. Jones Harvest Publishing
O’Toole, Donna R (1989). Aarvy Aardvark Finds Hope. NC: Compassion Books
Palmer, Pat (1994). I Wish I Could Hold Your Hand. CA: Impact Publishers
Scrivani, Mark (1996). I Heard Your Mommy/Daddy Died. NE: Centering Corporation
Silverman, Janice (1999). Help Me Say Goodbye. MN: Fairview Press
Sims, Alecia M. (1993). Am I Still A Sister? NM: Big A and Company
Stickney, Doris (1997). Waterbugs and Dragonflies. PA: Pilgram Press
Stillwell, Elaine (1995). Sweet Memories. NE: Centering Corporation
Tiffault, Benette (1992). A Quilt for Elizabeth. NE: Centering Corporation
Wilhelm, Hans (1988). I’ll Always Love You. NY: Crown Publishers
Ages 12 through 18
Arrick, Fran (1980). Tunnel Vision. NY: Brabury Press
Blume, Judy (1981). Tiger Eyes. NY: Brabury Press
Buchanan Smith, Doris (1973). A Taste of Black Berries. NY: Harper Collins
Buck, Pearl S. (1986). The Big Wave. Publisher: Turtleback Books
Buscaglia, Leo (1982). The Fall of Freddie the Leaf. NJ: Slack, Charles B.
Coerr, Eleanor (1997). Sadako and the Thousand Paper Cranes. Publisher: Bantam Doubleday Dell
Dower, Laura (2001). I Will Remember You. NY: Scholastic Paperbacks
Gootman, Marilyn (1994). When A Friend Dies. MN: Spirit Publishing
Gravelle, Karen & Haskins, Charles (1989). Teenagers Face to Face With Bereavement. NJ: Messner
Green, Constance C. (1976). Beat the Turtle Drum. NY: Dell Publishing
Grollman, Earl (1993). Straight Talk About Death To Teenagers. MA: Beacon Press
Grollman, Earl (1999). Living When a Young Friend Commits Suicide. MA: Beacon Press
Kilf, June Cezra (1990). Teenagers Talk About Grief. MI: Baker Books
Krementz, Jill (1981). How It Feels When A Parent Dies. NY: Alfred Knopf
Lazar, Linda (1999). In My World. NE: Centering Corporation
LeShan, Eda. Learning to Say Goodbye. NY: MacMillian
Levang, Elizabeth & IIse, Sherokee. Remembering With Love: Messages of Hope for the First Year
of Grieving and Beyond. MN: Fairview Press
Mahon, K.L. Just One Tear. NY: Harper Collins
O”Toole, Donna (1995). Facing Change: Falling Apart and Coming Together Again in the Teen
Years. Publisher: Compassion Books
Park, Barbara (1995). Mick Harte Was Here. NY: Scholastic Press
Paterson, Katherine (1977). Bridge to Terabithia. NY: Avon
Richter, Elizabeth (1986). Losing Someone You Love. NY: Putnam Sons
Salloum, Alison (1998). Reactions. NE: Centering Corporation
Scrivani, Mark (1991). When Death Walks In. NE: Centering Corporation
Smith, Doris (1973). A Taste of Blackberries. Publisher: Turtleback Books
Traisman, Enid (1992). Fire In My Heart, Ice in My Veins. NE: Centering Corporation
Walton, Charlie. When there are No Words: Finding you way to cope with loss. GA:
Pathfinder Publisher
Welshons, John (2003). Awakening From Grief: Finding the way back to joy. HI:
Inner Ocean Publishing
Varley, Susan (1998). Badger’s Parting Gifts. Publisher: Magi Publications
Also, please check the recommendations for teens from The Center for Loss and Life Transition, as well as the recommendations for teens from Compassion Books.
Books for Adults to Support Children and Teens
Breaking the Silence (2nd Ed.) by Linda Goldman sheds new light onto complex areas of traumatic grief. Designed for educators, mental health practitioners, caregivers, and parents, it presents techniques, words, activities, and methods to initiate discussions of these sensitive issues. Includes resources and practical activities for working with bully-victimization issues.
Making Cancer Less Painful: A Handbook for Parents
Pain, Pain, Go Away: Helping Children with Pain (Online Version)
Both booklets are also available for a nominal cost. Order from: Association for the Care of Children's Health; 7910 Woodmont Avenue, Suite 300; Bethesda, Maryland 20814; (800) 808-2224; begin_of_the_skype_highlighting(800) 808-2224end_of_the_skype_highlighting or E-mail: acch@clark.net
Healing the Grieving Heart and Healing Your Grieving Heart, by Dr. Alan Wolfelt. One book is for the caregiver, and the other is for the bereaved individual. Small and easy to carry in pocket or purse, both are superb in content. These books make excellent support resources for you or as gifts.
Soft cover. Healing the Grieving Heart #1370 $9.95, Healing Your Grieving Heart, #1375 $9.95 at Living With Loss Magazine.
Healing the Grieving Child's Heart and Healing Your Grieving Heart - 100 Practical Ideas for Kids, by Dr. Alan Wolfelt. Companion books designed to support children's grief experiences. One is for the child's caregiver and one is especially for the child. Filled with concise information and suggestions, it is compact and easy to carry in pocket or purse.
Soft cover. Child's Heart #1376 $9.95, Your Heart #1377 $9.95 at Living With Loss Magazine.
Healing a Teen's Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas for Families, Friends and Caregivers, by Dr. Alan Wolfelt. If you are looking to help a grieving teen but aren't sure how, this book is for you. It explores the teen's unique mourning needs, offers practical advice and suggest realistic activities.
Soft cover, 128 pages #1382 $11.95 at Living With Loss Magazine.
Teen Age Grief Leadership Manual by Linda Cunningham. A comprehensive curriculum for the operation of a teen grief support group. Suitable for use in education, social services, health care, community and other settings. Video/audio tapes also available. Paperback, 203 pages.
Check the recommendations for adults supporting children, teens and themselves at http://www.centerforloss.com/
Check the recommendations for adults supporting children and teens from Compassion Books.
Books for Adults
When Mourning Dawns: Living Your Way Through the Seasons of Grief, by Jim Miller at Willowgreen. This beautifully designed book has been written for adults of all ages who have experienced any kind of death-related loss.
Paperback, 64 pages, 5½" x 8½ ", #1737 $6.95
Creating Meaningful Funeral Ceremonies, by Dr. Alan Wolfelt. Designed to complement the clergy and funeral director's roles in the funeral planning process, this guide walks reader through the many decisions they will make at the time of a death. Just the right amount of information at just the right time.
Soft cover, 80 pages #1386 $12.95
Also, Creating Meaningful Funeral Ceremonies - for families #1381 $12.95
Both at Living With Loss Magazine.
The Death of Adult Children Through the Eyes of Grieving Parents may be helpful for those who have lost an adult child, according to GriefNet and available at http://griefnet.org/library/reviews/d/dthadltchldR.html
Good Grief by Granger E. Westberg is a well-known and reliable standby per GriefNet. Available through GriefNet at http://griefnet.org/library/reviews/g/goodgriefpbR.html
The Grief Recovery Handbook: The Action Program For Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses has been found to be helpful to many at some point according to GriefNet, and is available at http://griefnet.org/library/reviews/g/griefrecoverypbR.html
Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss, by Hope Edelman is reviewed at GriefNet at http://griefnet.org/library/reviews/l/legoflossR.html
Bolton I. (1983). My Son...My Son: A Guide to Healing After Death, Loss or Suicide. Atlanta: Bolton Printers.
Doyle D. (1994). Caring for a Dying Relative: A Guide for Families. New York, NY: Oxford University Press.
Tear Soup by Pat Schweibert. Tear Soup is one of the best and most popular grief resources out there. Although it looks and reads like a fairy tale, or child's fable, it is actually most informative about grief for adults as well as children. A must read.
A Grief Observed, by C.S. Lewis (scholarly author of The Chronicles of Narnia). Mr. Lewis married late to the love of his life, Joy Gresham, who died four years later of bone cancer. This book is his heavy spiritual journey through grief following her death. A comforting, important book, highly recommended for anyone who has lost someone dear.
I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping & Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One, by Brook Noel & Pamela D Blair. These two women have been there themselves, tell their stories, then provide a helpful hands-on approach to dealing with grief. It offers practical exercises for working through the mourning process. Especially helpful grief book during the first weeks after a sudden tragic loss.
Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief, by Martha Whitmore Hickman. Ms. Hickman penned this volume of light, comforting thoughts after the death of her 16-year-old daughter in a riding accident. It provides "tiny shafts of light in the darkness".
Safe Passage: Words to Help the Grieving Hold Fast and Let Go, by Molly Fumia. This book was written by Ms. Fumia as she belatedly mourned the loss of her first-born son. A compassionate, soothing book which helps the grieving hold fast to the memory of their loved one while passing through anger, confusion, guilt and loneliness to acceptance and transformation. Recommended for later on in the grief process.
When Bad Things Happen to Good People, by Rabbi Harold Kushner, who experienced a crisis of faith when his 13-year-old son Aaron died of a rare disease. This national bestseller provides a uniquely practical and compassionate view on tragedy and grief. Kushner suggests that we must come to the conclusion that God is not the author of our misfortunes but rather the source of help and strength. Especially helpful for those dealing with guilt issues or the "if onlys".
Living When a Loved One Has Died, by Earl Grollman. A gentle, poetic journey through the realities, truth and hope of grief. This book is perfect for people in mourning because it is in the form of poems that express the raw feelings of grief. It helps you feel what you need to feel, without making apologies for it. Recommended for the later stages of grief, not the first few weeks.
To Begin Again,by Rabbi Naomi Levy. She shares a deep and compassionate understanding of grief that is useful for those of any spiritual belief. Levy realizes that the question after a personal tragedy should not be, "Why did this happen?" but rather, "How can I go on?"
How to go on Living When Someone You Love Dies, by Therese Rando. This easy and practical read helps you understand the grieving process and find comfort in learning you are "normal" in your grief. This highly recommended self-help book provides specific coping strategies for different situations.
Seasons of Solace: A Story of Healing Through Photos and Poems, by Janelle Shantz Hertzler. Janelle lost her husband John to a drunk driver in Thailand and she shares her story of grief in a very eloquent and moving manner. Her journey towards acceptance and peace is told through poems and photographs throughout this beautiful book.
Resources for Professionals
Teaching Students About Death: A Comprehensive Resource for Educators and Parents by Robert Stevenson and Eileen Stevenson (eds). An excellent resource for school personnel.
Healing the Bereaved Child, by Dr. Alan Wolfelt. Offered in an easy-to-read format, this comprehensive manual takes readers on a metaphoric journey through a "grief garden" for children. An excellent tool for parents or professionals who are caring for a bereaved child. Describes the child's six needs of mourning, foundations of counseling bereaved children...and more.
Soft cover, 344 pages #1310 $39.95 at Living With Loss Magazine.
What Will We Do?: Preparing Schools to Cope with Crisis(2nd Ed.) By Robert Stevenson, Editor. A guidebook for educators and parents who wish to understand and assist schools in coping with crises. The book examines the scope and effects of programs that target such issues as loss, illness, death, grief, war and violence. Contains 15 pages of guidelines and protocols that can be taken to prepare a school community to establish an intervention plan for possible future crises.
Baywood Publishing Company, Inc.
Scholarly and professional publications since 1964. Complete book and journal information - including all journal articles with abstracts and now all articles are available for electronic delivery. Find death and bereavement resources by keyword, author, article, title or issue.
http://baywood.com/
The Center for Loss and Life Transition Bookstore
The publications for mourners and bereavement caregivers are current, readable and compassionate. The Center offers books, brochures, videotapes, audiocassettes, aftercare packets and posters. Companion Press is the publishing division of the Center for Loss and is dedicated to the education and support of both the bereaved and bereavement caregivers. Many of these books were written by Dr. Alan Wolfelt, who is an internationally noted author, educator and grief counselor
http://www.centerforloss.com/bookstore.php
Compassion Books
"The resources we offer have been collected from hundreds of publishers (small and large). They have been carefully reviewed by knowledgeable professionals and others who have experienced similar losses."
http://www.compassionbooks.com
The Dougy Center maintains resources, all available for purchase throughout their site or by phone/mail. Resources include books and videos categorized by Child/Teen/Adult.
http://www.dougy.org
GriefNet
GriefNet maintains an Annotated Bibliography of resources. Each book has a review, and many can be found at the public library. If not, you can purchase them through their link to Amazon, which provides funding.
http://griefnet.org/library/biblio/index.html
RENEW Center for Personal Recovery
Offers comprehensive training publications for developing a school and district-wide crisis plan, training teams in crisis management, empowering building-level crisis teams to provide staff development for their colleagues, parents, and students to prevent, intervene, respond to crisis, as well as to support recovery by students and staff from grief and trauma. The Book Catalogue contains excellent self-help books, journals and tapes for parents, counselors, teachers, and children and youth on grief, trauma, suicide, murder, abuse, violence prevention, depression, divorce, self-esteem, drug abuse, and much more.
http://renew.net
Two other sources for death related stories, poetry and other forms of literature are:
D. J. Enright (Ed.), The Oxford Book of Death (1983) and
R. F. Weir (Ed.), Death in Literature (1980).
Children and Teens Facing Grief
Ages 3 to 5
Brown, Laurie & Marc (1996) When Dinosaurs Die. Boston: Little, Brown and Company
Brown, M. The Dead Bird. NY: Young Scotts Books
Buscaglia, Leo (1982). The Fall of Freddie the Leaf. NJ: Slack, Charles B.
Coutant, H. First Snow NY: Alfred Knopf
Dickerson, Julie (1995). Grandpa’s Berries. PA: Cherubic Press
Fox, Mern (1989). Wilfred Gordon McDonald Partridge. CA: Kane/Miller Book Publishers
Goldman, Linda (1998) Bart Speaks Out. CA: Manson Western
Goldstein, R. & J. (1982). Where’s Jess? NE: Centering Corporation
Gryte, Marilyn (1988). No New Baby. NE: Centering Corporation
Hanks, Bernice (1996). Green Mittens from Grandma. NE: Centering Corporation
Harris, A. (1965). Why Did He Die? MN: Lerner Publications.
Harris, Robert H. (2001). Goodbye, Mousie. NY: Simon & Schuster
Joslin, Mary & Little, Claire (1999). The Goodbye Boat. MI: William B. Eerdmans
Kohen, Cindy, Heiney, John & Gordon, Michael (1997).Daddy’s Promise. MI: Promise Pub
LeShan, Eda. Learning to Say Goodbye. NY: MacMillian
Madenski, Melissa (1991). Some of the Pieces. NY: Little Brown and Company
Mellonie, B & Ingpen, R. (1983). Lifetimes: A beautiful way to explain death. NY: Bantam
McLaughlin, Kristen (2000). The Memory Box. NE: Centering Corporation
Miles, Miska (1985). Annie and the Old One. NY: Little Brown and Company
Mills, Joyce C. (1993). Gentle Willow. NY: Magination Press
Morning, Barbara (1996). Grandfather’s Shirt. NE: Centering Corporation
Mundy, Michelene. Sad Isn’t Bad: A Good Grief Guidebook. Abbey Press
O’Toole, Donna R (1989). Aarvy Aardvark Finds Hope. NC: Compassion Books
Palmer, Pat (1994). I Wish I Could Hold Your Hand. CA: Impact Publishers
Scrivani, Mark (1996). I Heard Your Mommy/Daddy Died. NE: Centering Corporation
Silverman, Janice (1999). Help Me Say Goodbye. MN: Fairview Press
Sims, Alecia M. (1993). Am I Still A Sister? NM: Big A and Company
Stein, S. (1974). About Dying. NY: Walker and Company
Stickney, Doris (1997). Waterbugs and Dragonflies. PA: Pilgram Press
Varley, S. (1984). Badger’s Parting Gifts. NY: Wm. Morrow & Company
Voist, J. (1987). The Tenth Good Thing About Barney. NY: Atheneum
Warburg, S. Growing Time. NY: Houghton Mifflin Company
Wilhelm, Hans (1988). I’ll Always Love You. NY: Crown Publishers
Ages 6 to 12
Brown, Laurie & Marc (1996). When Dinosaurs Die. Boston: Little, Brown and Company
Buscaglia, Leo (1982). The Fall of Freddie the Leaf. NJ: Slack, Charles B.
Campbell, James (1992). Secret Places. NE: Centering Corporation
Clifton, Lucille (1988). Everett Andersons Goodbye. NY: Henry Holt
Coerr, E & Young, E. (1993). Sadako. NY: Putnam
Constans, Gabriel (1996). Just A Heartbeat Away. NE: Centering Corporation
Czech, Jan (2000). The Guardian Angel. NE: Centering Corporation
Dickerson, Julie (1995). Grandpa’s Berries. PA: Cherubic Press
DiPaolo, Tomie (2000). Nana Upstairs and Nana Downstairs. Australia: Penguin Putnam
Evarts, Michelle (1999). Butterfly Bush. NE: Centering Corporation
Goble, Paul (1993). Beyond the Ridge. NY: Aladdin
Goldman, Linda (1998). Bart Speaks Out. CA: Manson Western
Goldstein, R. & J. (1982). Where’s Jess? NE: Centering Corporation
Green-Alexander, Alesia (1999). Sunflowers and Rainbows for Tia. NE: Centering Corporation
Gryte, Marilyn (1988). No New Baby. NE: Centering Corporation
Hanks, Bernice (1996). Green Mittens from Grandma. NE: Centering Corporation
Harris, Robert H. (2001). Goodbye, Mousie. NY: Simon & Schuster
Hemery, Kathleen (1998). The Brightest Star. NE: Centering Corporation
Hipp, Earl (1995). Help for the Hard Times. Hazeldon Info & Ed Series
Hodge, John (1999). Finding Grandpa Everywhere. NE: Centering Corporation
Holmes, Margaret (1999). Molly’s Mom Died. NE: Centering Corporation
Kohen, Cindy, Heiney, John & Gordon, Michael (1997). Daddy’s Promise. MI: Promise Publications
Landolf, Helen (2000). Getting Used to Candy. NE: Centering Corporation
Liss Levinson, Nechama (1999). When A Grandparent Dies. VT: Jewish Lights Press
Lowden, Stephanie (1993). Emily’s Sadhappy Season. NE: Centering Corporation
Madenski, Melissa (1991). Some of the Pieces. NY: Little Brown and Company
Marshall, Bridgett (1997). Animal Crackers. NE: Centering Corporation
McLaughlin, Kristen (2000). The Memory Box. NE: Centering Corporation
Miles, Miska (1985). Annie and the Old One. NY: Little Brown and Company
Mills, Joyce C. (1993). Gentle Willow. NY: Magination Press
Morning, Barbara (1996). Grandfather’s Shirt. NE: Centering Corporation
Moser, Adolf (1995). Don’t Despair on Thursdays. KS: Landmark Editions
Oliver, Sam (2005). A Fish Named Ed. Jones Harvest Publishing
O’Toole, Donna R (1989). Aarvy Aardvark Finds Hope. NC: Compassion Books
Palmer, Pat (1994). I Wish I Could Hold Your Hand. CA: Impact Publishers
Scrivani, Mark (1996). I Heard Your Mommy/Daddy Died. NE: Centering Corporation
Silverman, Janice (1999). Help Me Say Goodbye. MN: Fairview Press
Sims, Alecia M. (1993). Am I Still A Sister? NM: Big A and Company
Stickney, Doris (1997). Waterbugs and Dragonflies. PA: Pilgram Press
Stillwell, Elaine (1995). Sweet Memories. NE: Centering Corporation
Tiffault, Benette (1992). A Quilt for Elizabeth. NE: Centering Corporation
Wilhelm, Hans (1988). I’ll Always Love You. NY: Crown Publishers
Ages 12 through 18
Arrick, Fran (1980). Tunnel Vision. NY: Brabury Press
Blume, Judy (1981). Tiger Eyes. NY: Brabury Press
Buchanan Smith, Doris (1973). A Taste of Black Berries. NY: Harper Collins
Buck, Pearl S. (1986). The Big Wave. Publisher: Turtleback Books
Buscaglia, Leo (1982). The Fall of Freddie the Leaf. NJ: Slack, Charles B.
Coerr, Eleanor (1997). Sadako and the Thousand Paper Cranes. Publisher: Bantam Doubleday Dell
Dower, Laura (2001). I Will Remember You. NY: Scholastic Paperbacks
Gootman, Marilyn (1994). When A Friend Dies. MN: Spirit Publishing
Gravelle, Karen & Haskins, Charles (1989). Teenagers Face to Face With Bereavement. NJ: Messner
Green, Constance C. (1976). Beat the Turtle Drum. NY: Dell Publishing
Grollman, Earl (1993). Straight Talk About Death To Teenagers. MA: Beacon Press
Grollman, Earl (1999). Living When a Young Friend Commits Suicide. MA: Beacon Press
Kilf, June Cezra (1990). Teenagers Talk About Grief. MI: Baker Books
Krementz, Jill (1981). How It Feels When A Parent Dies. NY: Alfred Knopf
Lazar, Linda (1999). In My World. NE: Centering Corporation
LeShan, Eda. Learning to Say Goodbye. NY: MacMillian
Levang, Elizabeth & IIse, Sherokee. Remembering With Love: Messages of Hope for the First Year
of Grieving and Beyond. MN: Fairview Press
Mahon, K.L. Just One Tear. NY: Harper Collins
O”Toole, Donna (1995). Facing Change: Falling Apart and Coming Together Again in the Teen
Years. Publisher: Compassion Books
Park, Barbara (1995). Mick Harte Was Here. NY: Scholastic Press
Paterson, Katherine (1977). Bridge to Terabithia. NY: Avon
Richter, Elizabeth (1986). Losing Someone You Love. NY: Putnam Sons
Salloum, Alison (1998). Reactions. NE: Centering Corporation
Scrivani, Mark (1991). When Death Walks In. NE: Centering Corporation
Smith, Doris (1973). A Taste of Blackberries. Publisher: Turtleback Books
Traisman, Enid (1992). Fire In My Heart, Ice in My Veins. NE: Centering Corporation
Walton, Charlie. When there are No Words: Finding you way to cope with loss. GA:
Pathfinder Publisher
Welshons, John (2003). Awakening From Grief: Finding the way back to joy. HI:
Inner Ocean Publishing
Varley, Susan (1998). Badger’s Parting Gifts. Publisher: Magi Publications
Also, please check the recommendations for teens from The Center for Loss and Life Transition, as well as the recommendations for teens from Compassion Books.
Books for Adults to Support Children and Teens
Breaking the Silence (2nd Ed.) by Linda Goldman sheds new light onto complex areas of traumatic grief. Designed for educators, mental health practitioners, caregivers, and parents, it presents techniques, words, activities, and methods to initiate discussions of these sensitive issues. Includes resources and practical activities for working with bully-victimization issues.
Making Cancer Less Painful: A Handbook for Parents
Pain, Pain, Go Away: Helping Children with Pain (Online Version)
Both booklets are also available for a nominal cost. Order from: Association for the Care of Children's Health; 7910 Woodmont Avenue, Suite 300; Bethesda, Maryland 20814; (800) 808-2224; begin_of_the_skype_highlighting(800) 808-2224end_of_the_skype_highlighting or E-mail: acch@clark.net
Healing the Grieving Heart and Healing Your Grieving Heart, by Dr. Alan Wolfelt. One book is for the caregiver, and the other is for the bereaved individual. Small and easy to carry in pocket or purse, both are superb in content. These books make excellent support resources for you or as gifts.
Soft cover. Healing the Grieving Heart #1370 $9.95, Healing Your Grieving Heart, #1375 $9.95 at Living With Loss Magazine.
Healing the Grieving Child's Heart and Healing Your Grieving Heart - 100 Practical Ideas for Kids, by Dr. Alan Wolfelt. Companion books designed to support children's grief experiences. One is for the child's caregiver and one is especially for the child. Filled with concise information and suggestions, it is compact and easy to carry in pocket or purse.
Soft cover. Child's Heart #1376 $9.95, Your Heart #1377 $9.95 at Living With Loss Magazine.
Healing a Teen's Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas for Families, Friends and Caregivers, by Dr. Alan Wolfelt. If you are looking to help a grieving teen but aren't sure how, this book is for you. It explores the teen's unique mourning needs, offers practical advice and suggest realistic activities.
Soft cover, 128 pages #1382 $11.95 at Living With Loss Magazine.
Teen Age Grief Leadership Manual by Linda Cunningham. A comprehensive curriculum for the operation of a teen grief support group. Suitable for use in education, social services, health care, community and other settings. Video/audio tapes also available. Paperback, 203 pages.
Check the recommendations for adults supporting children, teens and themselves at http://www.centerforloss.com/
Check the recommendations for adults supporting children and teens from Compassion Books.
Books for Adults
When Mourning Dawns: Living Your Way Through the Seasons of Grief, by Jim Miller at Willowgreen. This beautifully designed book has been written for adults of all ages who have experienced any kind of death-related loss.
Paperback, 64 pages, 5½" x 8½ ", #1737 $6.95
Creating Meaningful Funeral Ceremonies, by Dr. Alan Wolfelt. Designed to complement the clergy and funeral director's roles in the funeral planning process, this guide walks reader through the many decisions they will make at the time of a death. Just the right amount of information at just the right time.
Soft cover, 80 pages #1386 $12.95
Also, Creating Meaningful Funeral Ceremonies - for families #1381 $12.95
Both at Living With Loss Magazine.
The Death of Adult Children Through the Eyes of Grieving Parents may be helpful for those who have lost an adult child, according to GriefNet and available at http://griefnet.org/library/reviews/d/dthadltchldR.html
Good Grief by Granger E. Westberg is a well-known and reliable standby per GriefNet. Available through GriefNet at http://griefnet.org/library/reviews/g/goodgriefpbR.html
The Grief Recovery Handbook: The Action Program For Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses has been found to be helpful to many at some point according to GriefNet, and is available at http://griefnet.org/library/reviews/g/griefrecoverypbR.html
Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss, by Hope Edelman is reviewed at GriefNet at http://griefnet.org/library/reviews/l/legoflossR.html
Bolton I. (1983). My Son...My Son: A Guide to Healing After Death, Loss or Suicide. Atlanta: Bolton Printers.
Doyle D. (1994). Caring for a Dying Relative: A Guide for Families. New York, NY: Oxford University Press.
Tear Soup by Pat Schweibert. Tear Soup is one of the best and most popular grief resources out there. Although it looks and reads like a fairy tale, or child's fable, it is actually most informative about grief for adults as well as children. A must read.
A Grief Observed, by C.S. Lewis (scholarly author of The Chronicles of Narnia). Mr. Lewis married late to the love of his life, Joy Gresham, who died four years later of bone cancer. This book is his heavy spiritual journey through grief following her death. A comforting, important book, highly recommended for anyone who has lost someone dear.
I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping & Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One, by Brook Noel & Pamela D Blair. These two women have been there themselves, tell their stories, then provide a helpful hands-on approach to dealing with grief. It offers practical exercises for working through the mourning process. Especially helpful grief book during the first weeks after a sudden tragic loss.
Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief, by Martha Whitmore Hickman. Ms. Hickman penned this volume of light, comforting thoughts after the death of her 16-year-old daughter in a riding accident. It provides "tiny shafts of light in the darkness".
Safe Passage: Words to Help the Grieving Hold Fast and Let Go, by Molly Fumia. This book was written by Ms. Fumia as she belatedly mourned the loss of her first-born son. A compassionate, soothing book which helps the grieving hold fast to the memory of their loved one while passing through anger, confusion, guilt and loneliness to acceptance and transformation. Recommended for later on in the grief process.
When Bad Things Happen to Good People, by Rabbi Harold Kushner, who experienced a crisis of faith when his 13-year-old son Aaron died of a rare disease. This national bestseller provides a uniquely practical and compassionate view on tragedy and grief. Kushner suggests that we must come to the conclusion that God is not the author of our misfortunes but rather the source of help and strength. Especially helpful for those dealing with guilt issues or the "if onlys".
Living When a Loved One Has Died, by Earl Grollman. A gentle, poetic journey through the realities, truth and hope of grief. This book is perfect for people in mourning because it is in the form of poems that express the raw feelings of grief. It helps you feel what you need to feel, without making apologies for it. Recommended for the later stages of grief, not the first few weeks.
To Begin Again,by Rabbi Naomi Levy. She shares a deep and compassionate understanding of grief that is useful for those of any spiritual belief. Levy realizes that the question after a personal tragedy should not be, "Why did this happen?" but rather, "How can I go on?"
How to go on Living When Someone You Love Dies, by Therese Rando. This easy and practical read helps you understand the grieving process and find comfort in learning you are "normal" in your grief. This highly recommended self-help book provides specific coping strategies for different situations.
Seasons of Solace: A Story of Healing Through Photos and Poems, by Janelle Shantz Hertzler. Janelle lost her husband John to a drunk driver in Thailand and she shares her story of grief in a very eloquent and moving manner. Her journey towards acceptance and peace is told through poems and photographs throughout this beautiful book.
Resources for Professionals
Teaching Students About Death: A Comprehensive Resource for Educators and Parents by Robert Stevenson and Eileen Stevenson (eds). An excellent resource for school personnel.
Healing the Bereaved Child, by Dr. Alan Wolfelt. Offered in an easy-to-read format, this comprehensive manual takes readers on a metaphoric journey through a "grief garden" for children. An excellent tool for parents or professionals who are caring for a bereaved child. Describes the child's six needs of mourning, foundations of counseling bereaved children...and more.
Soft cover, 344 pages #1310 $39.95 at Living With Loss Magazine.
What Will We Do?: Preparing Schools to Cope with Crisis(2nd Ed.) By Robert Stevenson, Editor. A guidebook for educators and parents who wish to understand and assist schools in coping with crises. The book examines the scope and effects of programs that target such issues as loss, illness, death, grief, war and violence. Contains 15 pages of guidelines and protocols that can be taken to prepare a school community to establish an intervention plan for possible future crises.
